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  • Laura Garner

How water tight is your ship?

Updated: Sep 8, 2020

I don’t know about you, but it feels as though we are being tested on a daily basis. The most recent of the news variety is the reporting surrounding Dominic Cummings. I know many are absolutely furious about the lack of fairness (1 rule for 1, 1 for another....Do as I say, Not as I do) and there is a swathe of emotions that are being felt.

Whilst I’m not going to get into the debate of right vs wrong.... I do want to comment on how easy it can be to get swept up by events that we have seemingly no control over. And before we know it we can have lost hours focusing on the negative, which can lead us to get stuck in an unhelpful pattern which can lead to unhelpful emotions.

Remember that in all of this - we DO have a choice. And we have a toolkit of strategies / skills to help us. Over the last 8 weeks I’ve shared a whole bunch on here too.

What in this situation can you control? (For example, signing the Change.Org petition) Taking action (within reason!) can help change our state and feel more positive because we have done WHAT WE CAN within a situation where we felt we had no control at all.

Our brains don’t need any help at all focusing on the negative- this is what they are wired to do to help us survive, so why not make a conscious choice to focus on some of the positives in your life right now? (This does not have to be linked to the external situation that is causing you distress). Research suggests that focusing on what we are grateful for can help us to have a more positive outlook, and become more content in our lives. (I have definitely found this).

Use the ‘Court of Thoughts’ approach - is what I’m telling myself True? Would it stand up in a court of law? (Or is it my brain making judgements, assumptions or catastrophising?)

Book an appointment to rant! Select a time (and timeframe) to have a rant with a loved one and get it all out of your system. A clear start and end time gives structure and helps the brain to think its fixing the problem!

It’s far easier to repair a smaller leak - so why not assess the state of your ship this week and see if any repairs are necessary?

With love x

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